Bride Doesn’t Want Fiancé’s Nephew At Their Wedding Because His Mom Was Her ‘Sworn Enemy’ In High School

May 14, 2021 by apost team

Weddings are full of romance, fun and love, and wanting the perfect day is typical for most brides and grooms. Receptions and ceremonies can be pretty pricey, and making sure everything is absolutely right is usually the goal of most wedding planners and happy couples. Some brides have been known to go a little overboard with this constant need for control for their big day, which is why people have coined the term Bridezilla.

A Bridezilla usually refers to a bride who has taken her actions to the next level and is exhibiting demanding or unreasonable behavior. Recently people have been debating just how far these Bridezillas should be allowed to go when it comes to their wants and needs for their special day. One bride went so far as to not invite her fiancé’s nephew to their wedding because his mother was her sworn enemy in high school.

It’s typical to have plenty of friends and family attend your own wedding, but it’s ultimately up to the bride and groom to decide the guest list. This doesn’t mean everyone will agree though, as seen by one Reddit user’s post in May 2021. The man behind the post is the groom's brother; he has had a lot to say about the upcoming wedding.

His own son was not invited to the special event due to some drama the bride had with the boy’s mother in high school. Her resentment has persisted all these years, and now the Reddit user is forced to make the decision as to whether he should attend his brother’s wedding.

One Reddit user took to social media on May 6, 2021, to ask if he was in the wrong for not wanting to go to his own brother’s wedding. His brother, 30, was set to marry a woman named Tara, 26, but had some disagreements regarding the guest list. The Reddit user explained how Tara went to the same high school as him and his ex-girlfriend. Tara and the ex-girlfriend “hated” each other, according to the social media user. He described their relationship as a past “petty high school rivalry,” where the two were both very “jealous of each other.”

Tara and the ex-girlfriend shared some interests though, as they were both on the same drill team, a group of dancers who perform dance routines in unison. These teams typically compete against other teams, but it seemed like Tara and the ex-girlfriend were competing against each other. 

According to the Reddit user, they both had a crush on the same guy, but he ended up rejecting Tara and going after the ex-girlfriend instead. The relationship didn’t last, and the girl later dated the Reddit user while they were in college. “It was a brief thing, we broke up right before my son Jason was born,” he explained.

Despite both of the women having moved on in their own personal lives and relationships, Tara still seemed to be holding resentment toward the Reddit user’s ex-girlfriend. The Reddit user’s brother and Tara are now engaged and set to be married in November. Even though Tara is soon to be part of his family, the Reddit user hasn’t spent much time with her. Wedding invitations were then sent out, and trouble began brewing, leading to a call from his brother. 

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“He said Tara didn’t like Jason being there at their wedding because he’s the son of my ex,” the Reddit user wrote, even though Tara and Jason had never met each other. “She doesn't like the idea of her ‘sworn enemy’s’ son being at her wedding.” 

The Reddit user was shocked at the news. “I didn’t think he was serious because that was all years ago and we’re you know… adults now,” he wrote. “My ex isn’t even in our lives, so it’s not like she’ll be there.” He continued explaining the situation and how he felt, revealing he was mad that his brother would even go along with the bride’s wishes since everyone else was allowed to bring their children.

“My brother pleaded me to go along with this because he wants her to be happy on their special day,” the social media user wrote, and made his own decision to not attend either. This of course only fueled the fire in the family fight. The two brothers have since gotten their parents involved, and according to the Reddit user, they agree that the bride is being “ridiculous.” However, their other siblings have sided with the groom.

“I’m on the fence about how I handled things here,” the Redditor said. “If it was a ‘no kids wedding’ then I’d get that,’ he explained. “But my son is the only one not allowed to be there and I don’t feel right with excluding him over something childish that was 10 years ago.”

There have been no updates about what happened next. However, most users have agreed that singling out the nephew because of a high school grudge is petty and does not bode well for the relationship's future. 

What did you think about this situation? Should the brother still go to the wedding? Let us know your thoughts, and be sure to pass this along to your friends and family members.