Bride Divides Opinion After Wedding Dress Fight With Groom's Mother Leads To Unexpected Results

Aug 30, 2021 by apost team

Weddings are a beautiful event but they are never easy to plan. They can become especially difficult when the bride becomes extremely uncompromising, or if family members try to make the day all about them. Some stories on the internet about weddings show that a bride have been at fault for ruining her own wedding, while other stories show that family members can turn a beautiful event into a nightmare.

The term “Bridezilla” was created to refer to brides whose attitudes are extreme and intolerably demanding. There has even been a reality show made called “Bridezillas” that is all about obsessive brides behaving badly. The internet is filled with stories of bridezillas who have demanded ridiculous things from their friends and family members, and it is fodder for the internet to debate over.

While some stories do lead to a debate about certain issues, such as how many presents are enough for a bride, other stories bring all internet users together for a unanimous judgment. One story on Reddit, posted on August 27, 2021, had users agreeing that everyone in that particular situation was to be blamed for the wedding falling apart. 

It is a universal rule that no one should wear white at a wedding to take attention away from the bride, and it goes without saying that a person cannot wear the same dress as the bride at her wedding. However, in a strange turn of events, a mother-in-law-to-be and the bride ended up choosing the same dress, albeit in different colors, and this led to an argument. 

In her Reddit post, the bride began, "I’m in a lot of turmoil right now and it feels like everything is falling apart. I have never had a great relationship with my future MIL. It isn’t terrible but I can sense that she doesn’t like me. My fiancé is very close to his family, so there has been some tension." 

She continued, "I didn’t invite MIL wedding dress shopping because our relationship is awkward but I thought I’d show her a picture to make her feel included. My dress is a beautiful flowy beachy dress, but not technically a wedding dress and could be ordered in color. I bought it from a small local boutique that we both love." 

Unfortunately, it turned out that her dress was going to be a problem. "MIL said that I can’t wear the dress because she bought the same one for her 50th birthday which is two weeks after my wedding. MIL does have the dress though in a mint green color (there is enough detailing that it is still clearly the same dress) and she has the receipt to prove she got it first," the bride revealed.  

As for why the MIL refused to change her own dress, the bride explained that "Lavish birthday parties are a thing in our circle, so I know she has invested serious time and money in this party." 

However, even with this complication, the bride said, "that I am still going to wear the dress, (despite the fact I could easily return it with no loss) because I didn’t do this out of malice and I love it." 

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She added, "Mil said if she wears it two weeks after I do everyone is going to to think she is pathetic and copying her sons wife. I said sorry but not really my problem."

The bride's attitude set of a bad reaction between members of her fiance's family. "His entire side of the family and the friends MIL invited have all backed out of the wedding, so like 15 people and it will be noticeable. His sisters were supposed to be in the wedding party on his side but dropped out and have blocked him on everything," the woman continued. 

Everyone on the fiance's side of the family had since shunned the couple, blocked them on all social media and did not invite them to any other events. "My fiancé is hurting," the bride wrote and asked for advice on how she should proceed. 

All commenters had different advice for her; some suggested that she give in and change her dress to maintain the peace, while others warned her that her to-be in-laws would walk all over her in the future if she gave in. However, most people agreed that everyone was acting immaturely in this situation: the MIL was being emotionally manipulative and unreasonable, while the bride was stubborn and uncompromsing. 

The bride also posted an update about how she proceeded, writing, "my dress is going back and I apologized to her because I can’t understand it but something deeply hurt her. Mil and my fiancé are talking for the first time in over a month. She seems exhausted and sad but maybe there is hope. I really don’t think SFIL or SILs will ever get over this but we will see." 

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