Bride Asks If It's Wrong To Not Allow Her Friend To Use Her Wedding Photographer For Engagement Pics

Aug 26, 2021 by apost team

Getting married is a huge step for couples to solidify their relationship and profess their love for one another in front of all of their friends and family. With such a grand and joyous day to plan, it makes sense that some couples can be a bit overwhelmed and stressed with all the planning that goes into a wedding. When the big day arrives, most weddings are planned and timed and everybody is hoping that everything will go off without a hitch.

This is especially true when the wedding is a bigger do with more guests or even something more special such as destination weddings. In the latter case, guests and the happy couple have traveled far, rented locations and hotel rooms and most likely paid a lot of money to experience the perfect wedding they have always dreamed of.

Now, most of us know that reality rarely matches our dreams. There will always be small snags and last-minute changes, even for a perfectly planned wedding. But one bride had an unforeseen problem during her carefully planned wedding that ended up causing her stress even days after the special day was over.

One day before the big wedding day, a close friend whom she had also made one of her bridesmaids got engaged at the destination. The bride was happy and congratulated her friend. However, the very next day, as the reception was in full swing, her wedding photographer came up to the bride to complain about the bridesmaid. The friend had asked the photographer for an engagement shoot - while the photographer was covering the wedding.

The bride took to Reddit to explain the whole situation and ask whether she had acted the right way. Taking to the AITA subreddit, she wrote:

"I got married last weekend. The day before my wedding, one of my bridesmaids got engaged. I was super happy for her and told her I was so excited for her wedding.

Then the next day, my friend kept saying she wanted her engagement photos done and since I already had a photographer, could she and her finacé just "borrow"" her for 40 minutes. She didn't even ask me first, rather went right to the photographer."

She went on to explain that the photographer had then come up to her to explain the situation. The photographer made it very clear that with the way things were planned, they would not have enough time to cover every part of the wedding as discussed beforehand and that she had not arrived equipped for or expecting an engagement shooting. If the bride's friend wanted engagement pictures and the bride wanted to sacrifice the time, the photographer would expect extra pay, and some parts of the wedding would not be covered.

The bride, completely aghast at the whole situation, told her friend that this was sadly not possible.

"I really didn't want to have her [the photographer] miss me getting a first look of myself in my dress and hair and makeup, so I told my friend no. She got really upset and kept bringing it up. The photographer did say she could take a nice picture of them at the reception but didn't have time for a shoot."

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Her friend and bridesmaid did not like her decision and called the bride a "bridezilla." And to top it off, she later accosted the photographer during the ceremony, demanding a photo shooting again. In the end, the bride had no choice but to ask her friend to leave. She wrote: "At that point, I walked away and asked my maid of honor to tell her she needed to leave because I was on the brink of tears."

Her friend then posted about the wedding and the bride's "horrible behavior" on social media, which led the bride to reach out and ask whether her actions had been wrong.

The Reddit users overwhelmingly sided with the bride. Many remarked that the friend came across as entitled, demanding the photographer's time while the bride had paid for the service.

"You hadn't contracted for or paid for the additional shoot. Your friend was beyond entitled!" one user wrote, with another adding: "The friend was trying to scam the photographer too. You have to pay for that, you don't just get a free shoot because a photographer is doing another event."

A few commentators also mentioned that it was quite odd the bridesmaid would even ask, as she was most likely wearing her bridesmaid outfit at the time:

"It's your wedding, she's there as a bridesmaid. Why would she want engagement photos in your bridesmaid dresses from the wedding? That's odd."

The bride posted an answer to this question, clarifying that her friend had paid a lot for her hair and outfit and had stated that she wouldn't be able to afford anything so nice anytime soon.

What do you think about this bridesmaid's idea? Would you have allowed your wedding photographer to take time off your wedding for a friend? Tell us what you think and pass this along to friends and family to find out what they think.