All I Want Is A Relationship Without Lies Or Cheats. I Want Pure Honesty.

Nov 29, 2018 by apost team

Most people love the idea of having a loyal and faithful relationship. It is what most of us dream of from a young age. We can't imagine staying in a relationship with someone who is unfaithful. A scenario as such wouldn't be okay. While most people are quite against infidelity in the first place, the definition of cheating and unfaithfulness can sometimes get lost in translation. Sometimes one specific thing doesn’t necessarily mean cheating to someone, while it does to someone else.

Cheating is really just a matter of different perspectives. When two individuals in one relationship don't have the same definition of it, disastrous results can and will likely occur. For many people, cheating begins as soon as there is some type of physical intimacy between their partner and a third party. It could be just a touch, a kiss, or actual sex. For other people, cheating begins when there is an emotional bond with a different person.

For a lot of people, emotional cheating is a form of cheating that can be just as bad, if not worse, than actual cheating. What is emotional cheating, you may ask? It is when a person becomes romantically and emotionally invested in another party, without the physical component. The two could be flirting together casually or discussing deep secrets with one another.

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Many men and women believe there to be a very large grey area that occurs when cheating is in the picture. However, I don’t see a grey area at all. You are either faithful or you are not. There is no in-between when it comes to being faithful to your significant other. I look at it in a very easy way, actually. And that is, if you do something to or with someone else that you wouldn’t do if your partner was right there, then that is a problem.

You are acting in poor faith if you have to hide what you are doing from your partner. Of course, this could be different depending on the individual person and what they are actually comfortable doing in front of others. But you have to face the truth. Anything you do behind your partner’s back that you wouldn’t want them to find out about is more than likely cheating.

Cheating can take many forms. Maybe you are simply staring at someone in the office for way too long over and over again. You could be exchanging texts that are pretty flirtatious with another person. Maybe it is a kiss on the cheek that you give someone every time you see them that you know means more than it should. The fact is, it is something you are doing deliberately in secret, without your significant other knowing. You are acting dishonestly no matter how much you try to justify your actions.

Everyone should interact with other people the same way they would if their loved one was there. If not, you are being very blatantly dishonest and untrue. This is what I believe unfaithfulness looks like. It is the blatant and deliberate betrayal of trust a person shows another, even when that person has no idea what is going on. This is one of the hardest betrayals to ever come back from. It’s so hard to build trust back up after you have broken it so completely.

I want everyone to know that I will always want a sense of honesty and trust when I get into a relationship. I believe that these two factors are at the top of the list when it comes to what is important to me. One simply can’t exist if the other isn’t around. If you don’t have honesty and trust together, how can there be true love? If one is compromised, both are. Once that happens, your whole relationship becomes compromised. It doesn’t matter whether it is emotional or physical dishonesty, either. Both can ruin a relationship beyond all repair.

When I am with you, I want you to be dedicated to me. I want you to be able to be yourself around me. I don’t want your character to change. You shouldn’t act one way when I am around and another when I’m not. I see this as an act of deceit and dishonesty. I do not want to be manipulated or played. I’m too old to play games with kids who don’t know what they want. I certainly won't allow myself to be made a fool of, either.

When you are dedicated to your relationship, stay faithful. This means both physically and emotionally. Don’t flirt or go out of your way to engage with anyone else. Be the same person when I am around and when I am not. I want you to choose to love me when we are together and when we aren’t. Being faithful to me means always being genuine no matter who is watching. That is what I expect in a relationship, and that is exactly what I will insist on. Everyone should.

Do you agree? How important are honesty and trust to you? Tell us in the comments and pass this along to others who might need to set higher standards for their relationships!