After Woman Pays $80K For Sister's Wedding, Her Stepsister Wants Her Own Wedding Paid For

Dec 01, 2021 by apost team

Planning a wedding is a time full of fun and excitement for the happy couple as they do everything they can to make their dream wedding become a reality. However, this doesn’t come without a price. Usually the more extravagant someone wants their wedding, the more they will have to pay. From food to flowers to entertainment, there seems to be an endless list of necessities to have at your wedding.

A woman on Reddit decided to extend her hand to her sister when it came time to foot the bill for her wedding. The original poster (OP) had come into some money through various means and was pretty well off. She was very close with her sister and wanted to help out, so she paid the entire $80,000 wedding bill.

It seems like no good deed goes unpunished, and OP was soon met with another financial request, this time from her stepsister. To give some backstory, OP’s mother left her and her family when she was very young and went off to marry someone else who had a daughter. When OP was about 16 years old, her mother began trying to make a connection with her and her sister again, and they even were able to develop a good relationship with their stepsister.

After finding out OP paid for her sister’s wedding, the stepsister wanted her wedding paid for, too, but OP refused. This has since caused a lot of drama within the family, resulting in OP turning to Reddit users in late November to ask for their advice on what she should do.

Starting off her Reddit post, OP explained that her parents got divorced when she was 6 years old and when her sister was 8 years old. Her mother didn’t want anything to do with them, and got remarried to a man who had a daughter one year younger than OP.

“But she got back in contact with us when my sister turned 18 and has been in contact with us since,” OP said. “And I have to admit she has been a good mother ever since, and we have a good relationship with our half sister also.”

OP went on to talk about how she came into a good amount of money. She was a founder of an app that was bought by a big private equity fund, and received a “high eight-figures” settlement as a result. She also was an early investor in Bitcoin. All in all, she is very financially stable.

When OP’s sister got married earlier in 2021, OP decided to pay for the whole ceremony which cost about $80,000. “No issues as I can afford it and my sister was very happy, which is what matters in the end,” she said. “But now my stepsister is getting married next month and she called me to say that I should help her with expenses in her wedding.” 

OP refused to do so. Afterward, her mother called her to say that she shouldn’t discriminate between her two sisters, but OP stated that she only has one sister. Unfortunately, her mother continued to guilt-trip her. 

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OP’s mother reasoned that OP should help out her stepsister and stepsister’s fiancé since they weren’t as financially stable as she was, and she had helped her other sister. OP continued, “I told her that just because I paid for my own sister’s wedding it doesn’t mean that I would pay for the wedding of the daughter of the guy she left us for. But she said that I am being petty.” 

Even though OP’s sister and father were on her side, she couldn’t help but wonder if she was wrong in this situation since her mother and stepsister seemed to think so. After posting her story to Reddit, OP asked Reddit users for their take on the matter. Fortunately, Redditors were on her side and let her know that she had every right to spend — or not spend — her money however she wanted. 

One user said, “Your money, your call as to who gets it. Also, your stepsister coming to you and actually asking for the money is seriously ballsy and tacky.” Another added, “Sounds like the people that come out of the woodwork after a family member wins the lottery…”

A third user chimed in, saying, “For her to call you and tell you that YOU SHOULD pay for HER wedding shows a sense of entitlement to your hard earned money. She and her spouse should for the wedding, end of story. They could have found other ways to gain your financial help like by asking for it instead of demanding. You’re good.” 

Do you think this woman was right to not want to pay for her stepsister’s wedding? Let us know, and be sure to pass this along to your friends and family to find out what they think, too.