According To Research, Divorced Women End Up Happier Than Their Male Counterparts

Oct 01, 2018 by apost team

Wouldn´t we all love to think that taking the huge step into marriage should mean forever? Unfortunately, for many couples, it doesn’t. The wedding vow, “until death do we part,” doesn’t always last.

While this might sound sad, a new study shows, that divorce might actually make you stronger and happier than living in an unhappy relationship - especially women. At least, there´s a new generation of happily divorced women out there.

The Times and the Marriage Foundation have recently concluded research that showed that in the last 25 years, divorce rates for newlyweds have actually been cut in half. Interestingly, chances that a couple gets divorced will drop down to 39% if they stay married for five years. Married couples who are able to celebrate their 10-year-anniversary have cut their chances of divorce down by a whole fifth. This is encouraging news for couples everywhere. After all, everybody hopes that their relationship will last forever. However, in total, over 40% to 50% of marriages still end in divorce. 

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Style Magazine recently conducted a survey. In it, they asked 1,600 British women and men, at an average age of 54, over 30 questions. These questions pertained to the different reasons why their marriage didn’t last as well as personal questions concerning their lives. First and foremost, more than 86% of the men and women agreed that no one should be embarrassed that they had to split up. Then, the study also had a look at life after divorce. As it turns out, men and women act very differently after their divorce.

Almost 50% of the participants of the survey said that they split up because their significant other "changed". Only a small percentage, 14% to be exact, admitted that they were to blame for the break-up. The second common problem that led to divorce was unhappiness. And the third most common reason was one of the married partners finding another love interest.

The survey also showed that over half of all couples took just six months to make the decision to divorce. Couples who took longer had been married longer or had children together. 

The study found that only 32% of men, or less than a third, say that they have been happier since their divorce. Over half of all the women, 53% of them, said that they have been happier since their divorce was finalized. There seem to be more and more women who overcame the challenge of divorce and now live a fulfilled single life. 

The study also looked at the words both genders used to describe the break-up. The women used words with a more positive meaning, such as “excited,” glad,” and “celebration” to describe how they felt about the divorce. The men used negative words, such as “disappointed” and “failure.” The study also looked at their thoughts on dating again. Only 47% of the men said they were happy that they were single, while 61% of the women agreed.

Men were quicker to move on to a new relationship. But while 30% of these men said they moved on emotionally as well, 17% of them said that they still had feelings left for their former spouse. This is in stark contrast to just 8% of women.

What do you think of the results and the generation of happily divorced women? Have you been through a divorce?  Can you relate to what the study says or have you had different experiences? Pass this article on to your friends and loved ones to get their opinions, as well, or show it to a divorced friend you know has been happier since her divorce!