According To Buddha, These Are The 4 Elements That Make Up True Love

Nov 28, 2018 by apost team

Feeling true love is only the beginning of making it last your entire life. There are a few contributing factors to a strong love, besides simply admitting it to yourself. The Buddha claimed that there were four elements of building a strong, lasting and life-long love.

"Upeksha" translates to "freedom." Even in a committed relationship, both parties must feel free to live their lives as they see fit. Your partner cannot control too many aspects of your life and vice versa. The Buddha advises us to feel accepted as our true, unapologetic selves in order to achieve the love of a lifetime.

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"Mudita" means "happiness." Love for your partner should always come from a place of happiness. If your love is not making you the happiest you can possibly be it is likely not true, long-lasting love. Happiness makes the heart grow fonder and fulfills your life as a whole. Love should be a source of such happiness.

The word "Karuna" literally means "compassion." Karuna means understanding the pain your partner has gone through. Only with this understanding will allow you to relate to your partner and be able to help ease their various pains in life. Communication and allowing your partner a safe place to express themselves are means of attaining "Karuna."

Sharing their pain with you will help your partner feel comfortable being vulnerable with you. The Buddha says that there is no way to love your partner without a desire to make them hurt as little as possible.

The term "maitri" translates to kindness in English. This concept implies that one cannot simply know love, but must also know how to love. Your intentions might be the purest, but sometimes you may not be loving your partner in the right way for them. Understanding how your partner needs to be loved requires a lot of observation and care.

Paying adequate attention to your partner's feelings, wants and needs is a part of beginning to understand your partner, inside and out. Listen to them and notice everything you can about them and your love will flourish.

Do you agree with these four elements? Do you have these elements in your own relationship? Let us know in the comments and send this article to your friends and family so they know what true love looks like!