A Strong Woman Won't Beg For Your Attention - If You Don't Give It To Her, She'll Walk Away

Dec 07, 2018 by apost team

When you're a strong woman, people mistakenly think you don't need anybody. After all, you love your independence. You are all about the single life, so you definitely don't care if you don't have any viable suitors on the horizon, and you don't care if they ever come, right?

It's funny how quick people are to assume that women either have two modes: desperate or disinterested. In reality, a strong woman might be happy flying solo, but that doesn't mean she doesn't dream of meeting her Prince Charming someday.

Of course, many strong women only got that way because they were so disillusioned by dating. I'd be willing to bet big money that the majority of modern dating women have been through the following scenario. Allow me to set the scene.

You meet a guy who catches your attention. He's consistent, charming without being cheesy and has a great sense of humor, so you decide to give him a chance; you two never run out of things to talk about, and after your first date, sparks are flying off the charts.

A second date was surely already arranged before the first ended. This man proves himself to be a gentleman by texting you shortly after your first meeting and thanking you for your time. He can't wait to see you again.

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The two of you spend more time together, and sure enough, you start to feel the tug on those heartstrings. You're falling in love. He could be the one. You even imagine your life together as husband and wife, making pancakes side-by-side in your underwear on a Saturday morning and chasing after kids who are the perfect combination of their mommy and daddy.

Then the curtain falls. Suddenly, Mr. Right is nowhere to be found. Like clockwork, he's disappeared from your life. Perhaps you succumb after a few glasses of wine and text him. Maybe you don't even drink and just miss him. He either doesn't text back at all, or he eventually responds to deliver the fatal blow. It's over between the two of you.

Now, the man who was becoming your best friend is gone, and you're left alone to nurse a broken heart. The person you want to go to for comfort is the cause of your pain, and you're left feeling jaded, used and completely crushed by yet another romance that didn't pan out.

Dating guarantees heartache. The moment you decide to put yourself out there, you're opening the door for rejection. People are going to turn you down. Those are easy enough to deal with. But there is a deeper type of rejection, the bitter sting of betrayal, that comes from slowly going against your instincts and trusting someone even though you knew he could turn out like all the others.

Have you ever heard of the myth that when you break a bone, it grows back stronger? I'm not sure if that has much weight in the medical field, but I can assure you it's true when it comes to the heart. Every relationship that fails to launch, every love you never got to keep, each one leaves a lasting impact on your heart.

With every fracture, the heart fuses itself back together tighter than ever before. It's harder for people to get in and even harder for you to let yourself love again.

But there is hope, and I'll tell you why.

You might have hurt a lot to become so strong, but don't let anyone convince you that you're too difficult to love. A strong woman knows her worth, and there are many men who will make you question whether or not this is a good thing.

Some might say you're "too stubborn" or call you stuck up. They'll bash your high expectations solely for the fact they fail to meet them. Do not let this sway you. Your strength is your crown, and you should wear it with pride, for you are a queen.

It's okay to hurt, and it's okay to ache. You are only human. The strong ones long for something soft, too. You are allowed to feel like you're falling apart sometimes, but you are different from many others. You know how to put yourself back together.

You are a warrior who has been able to smile in the midst of battle invisible to everyone around you. You have dared time and time again to give love a chance even when your heart urges you to run away.

If a man does not see your worth, he is not worth your time. Understand that your value will never diminish to the right one. The man for you will not only want you conditionally. He will admire you for your strength, and he will be in wonder of your independence and capability.

Any man who wants you to lessen your shine because he's too blinded by your light deserves to stay in the darkness. Dump him, free yourself and move on. The right one is out there, and in the meantime, you already have you to count on.

Tell us your best self-love tips in the comments! And pass this on to other strong women who might need to hear this - you never know who it could help!