8 Things The Independent Woman Already Knows

Mar 24, 2016 by apost team

Being independent isn't necessarily a choice. They — and we'll let you decide who "they" are — love to say "independence" is a characteristic, an aspect of personality. Truth is, in a lot of cases, independence is more a matter of well-being and survival than anything. Living alone and deciding to depend solely on yourself out of necessity are two different animals.
Individuals forced to live autonomously will have a greater advantage. Not having a choice but to look after ourselves for not just learning to manage life's technicalities, such as getting your car serviced, paying utility bills and going to work five days a week, while learning the best ways to negotiate responsibilities involving family and determining what is and isn't important? It's completely different from having the opportunity make the choice.
The virtue of being able to put yourself first. We live in a world where "self-love" and "selfishness" are often mistaken for the other. Remembering that knowing how to care for and love yourself should never be seen as a luxury. To have the life that you deserve, knowing these are necessities that can never be overlooked are a priority.
When you're independent, intimate relationships have to come first. Individuals forced into independence usually have either experienced abandonment or trauma. If someone in your life was stringent and controlling or too uninvolved in your early life, it can take some time to learn to trust yourself enough to rely and lean on others. And this is critical to having genuine relationships.
At the end of the day, all you have is you. We come into the world alone and we leave it alone. Regardless of whom you meet and love in between, the bottom line is it's only you. In that regard, no one has the power to change or control your life. Others can offer opportunity, but only you can take the critical steps to shaping and protecting you.
There is nothing more important than the sanctity of your mind and that means you have the peace of mind that comes with knowing no one person can hold something over your head. Financial, mental and emotional freedom are the most valuable currency you can hold. But these things are earned, not given to you. People who understand the need to develop and learn are in the best positions to manage their lives.
Your greatest pleasures will always be what you've earned, not what you're given. Should someone withhold love, you go find your own. When someone supplies everything you need, there is never a burning need to do it yourself. People who have things fall into their lap never learn to work hard. When you don't face discomfort out of necessity, you risk spending your life dodging risk and failure. Enablers keep you from becoming the whole person you need to be.

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