7 Things To Keep In Mind When You Hit A Rough Patch In Your Relationship

Jul 27, 2018 by apost team

Being in a relationship has so many benefits. You have support, someone to snuggle, someone to go out on the town with and someone to dream with. A great partner can make you a better person. They can make you confident enough to chase goals that may seem out of reach when you're alone. However, even great relationships come with hard times.

Once a relationship starts to cool down and settle into a more sustainable rhythm, it takes more effort to keep both partners happy. Of course, it's very often worth it, but it is important to know that the work must be done. You'll both have to struggle through life's ups and downs and try not to take it out on each other. Sure, not every relationship is worth salvaging, but having a clear picture of what it means to you will help you find out.

Being human, you will at some point have expectations of your partner that may be unnecessarily high. When this happens, your partner may not be able to understand your needs. You should determine what qualities are most important in a partner for you.

Don't sweat the lesser stuff. After all, your significant other is human too. He or she will be going through all the same stressors you're facing. Maybe they need a little slack.

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Emotions can build up when you hold them inside. If you're not sharing your feelings with your partner, how are they going to know how you feel? How are you going to get what you want or a fair negotiation if you keep it to yourself? Communicating what you want and how you feel is of the utmost importance.

Remember to stick up for yourself, but also be caring with the person you love when you express criticism.

A relationship should involve a certain amount of effort from each party. If you're struggling alone or not putting in your share, that could be the reason you're in a rough patch. Be there to hold each other up when problems occur in each other's lives, like family and work issues. If either of you feels alone, you might start feeling like you may as well be.

Being in the thick of things when it's going south doesn't always help. Each of you needs some space to think about what's happening without the pressure of your significant other being right there. Make sure you're both getting time to spend alone or with other loved ones to unwind. Spending some time apart will give you both perspective into how important the relationship is and how to fix it.

No relationship is perfect. Never forget that or you'll always feel disappointed. The trick to keeping fighting to a minimum is picking your battles. Is it worth making your partner feel awful or having a screaming match over a chore? If it is, that's okay. Just remember to let other things go. Not every problem is worth an all-out battle. Still, if the relationship makes you unhappy all the time, and everything feels like a battle, you'll have to consider whether it's worth it.

Everyone has a past. Every person goes into a relationship with baggage. However, relationship baggage should be dealt with as loving discussions set aside for such reminiscing. It should not be something you're stuck in, constantly talking about exes, your childhood or anything else that is gone from your life. Of course you shouldn't just forget it, hide it or be ashamed of your past, but you should also be able to look to the future. Your current partner is in your present and possibly your future. You could jeopardize that by living in the past.

It's a fair bet that you and your partner have made some mistakes in the relationship. The question is whether those mistakes are worth forgiving. If so, are you forgiving them or are you stuck in anger, sadness or resentment. Those feelings are natural, but they need to dealt with. If there is no way past them, the relationship will be awful. If they are worth getting past, work to truly forgive past wrongs and be happy together.

If you want to stay in a relationship, it's worth putting some effort in. Tell us about ways you make your relationship run smoothly in the comments below and show this to someone who needs to read this today.