7 Pieces Of Bad Relationship Advice You Should Never Follow

Dec 28, 2018 by apost team

Whether it's family or friends who want to tell you what you should do about your relationship, there are a few pieces of advice you should never follow no matter who gives it to you.

Everyone seems to have the right answer when it comes to giving relationship advice. Your parents have your interests and heart, and your best friend thinks this may be yet another one who is not exactly right for you even though they are easy on the eyes, but whether it's family or friends who want to tell you what you should do about your relationship, there are a few pieces of advice you should never follow no matter who gives it to you:

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Many family and friends will initially react with this line because they think it will instantly make you feel better to know there is someone else out there who could make your life much better. This, in fact, has the opposite effect. It not only makes you feel like a loser for being with your partner, but it will probably make you defensive about the whole relationship instead of helping you to solve an issue. 

If anyone ever gives you this advice, remember that you are not them. What they did and what you are going through are two different situations and need to be looked at by you and your significant other’s perspectives, not through the eyes of someone else. You can avoid others mistakes, but you have to learn to analyze your own in order to not repeat them.

This is an open invitation to lose complete trust that your significant other has in you that could lead to a complete breakdown of your relationship. Even though there may be difficult times, the foundation of a relationship is built on trust at its core, and that code should never be broken if a relationship is to endure. 

Making an emotional issue about money is never the solution to any relationship problem. Bringing finances into an already established problem only adds resentment to the issue and even could lead to breaking up. Many experts have said that financial issues should be handled as a separate discussion, and they are a real sore spot for many couples that would add only more animosity to an already precarious situation. 

Anyone who tells you to just ignore a bad situation doesn’t realize it will only make the matter worse. Not only will you grow to resent your significant other for continuing to do whatever is bothering you, but they may not even realize there is a problem! So, a discussion is always a good thing even if it may be uncomfortable at first because it will bring the problem out in the open and possibly resolve it quickly.

According to several relationship experts in Psychology Today, each person in a relationship must make a conscious decision to support each other no matter what problems arise, or else there will not be a long-term partnership. Understanding that “new romance” fades does not mean that desire is gone. It also means that you both need to work on it as opposed to being one person’s fault. 

Anyone who tells you this may have your best interests at heart, but they are assuming that you are a victim which may not be the case. Relationship issues are usually a two-way street, and anyone who wants to resolve them successfully has to take responsibility for their actions. When each person does this, then you can both move to resolve what is ailing the relationship instead of letting resentment fester until it breaks you up. 

Have you experienced some of the same bad advice? How did it affect your relationship outcome? Tell others what to expect from your personal experience.