5 Ways To Say Goodbye To Someone Whom You Love

Sep 28, 2018 by apost team

When you first begin a romantic relationship with someone, you let your mind fantasize about how your future will be, how wonderful things will be as your relationship develops.

But sometimes, it doesn't end up the way your dreamt. Despite all of the effort you put in, all of the love you gave, it just wasn't enough.


You may feel like you are hurting all because you let yourself love and that you will never let yourself love again, but opening yourself up to getting hurt is what makes love as amazing and rewarding as it is when you find the right person for you. If it’s not meant to be, then it’s not meant to be, but you can't let that keep you from the one that you are meant to be with.

Don’t lose hope. Here are a few pieces of wisdom, from someone who has been where you are now, to help you grieve the love you lost so you can start on your path to healing.


1. Grieve


I know, you are probably hearing this from every other person around you, but it's true. Moving on is hard to do and it isn't something that is going to happen overnight. Before you jump into another relationship just to rebound or before you denounce love altogether, make sure you have given yourself enough time to say goodbye to the last love first.

The grieving process can take a long time and breaking up is the exact same way. You may not be grieving over someone's life, but you are grieving over your hopes for the relationship, dreams of your future with them, and the relationship itself. You're going to be sad and angry, but you have to let yourself get past that in order to move on in a healthy way.

2. Learn From It


In order to grieve over a relationship, you have to let go of the things that you think made it perfect. When you hit a certain point after a break up, your mind starts to idealize the relationship and you start to think "it wasn't that bad."

Take a step back and really analyze the relationship for what it was.

Figure out what you did wrong, but also really analyze what the other person did wrong as well. A relationship requires two people and there is a fault on both sides, no matter how much you want to deny it. You may not like this process, but it is necessary to move on.

3. Consider What You Want


Know your “why" to love. It might be uncomfortable to think about and you may realize some things about yourself that you don't really like, but that is all part of the healing process. Consider what you are looking for and why you are looking for love in the first place. It is okay to want love for companionship, but often times people looking for love can be trying to fill a void in their life with a temporary love expecting it to last forever.

To avoid heartache, it is better to identify this and work on it before getting into a serious relationship.

4. Start in the Shallow End


Don’t be afraid to dip your toe in and feel out the tides. You don't have to jump right into a new relationship, nor should you, but seeing what's out there is a good way to remind yourself that there are options and there is someone out there for you.

You don’t need to jump right into the sack with the next person you see, but it's good to see what is out there.

There are lots of options and going out with someone once does not mean that you have to fully commit to that person.

5. Take a Leap


When you're really ready and open to love again, take a leap and let yourself be vulnerable again with the person you're meant to be with. Accept the love you truly deserve and all of the joys it brings. You'll be glad you did.


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