5 reasons Why He Comes Back To You After He Ends The Relationship

Oct 17, 2018 by apost team

Everyone knows the feeling that comes up when somebody breaks up with you. It's painful and unpredictable. But the big question that the one who was broken up with most often ask themselves is whether the partner will return one day. One thing's for sure, getting your heart broken like that hurts incredibly. Precisely because the partner cannot be forgotten so quickly, you end up following them on social media sites even after the relationship has ended in order to still know as much about their life as possible. The abandoned person browses every web page with the hope of obtaining helpful tips for regaining their partner.

But actually, this attempt is completely unnecessary. Most heartbreakers come back to their previous partner on their own. But most often the return happens when the partner is about to process and overcome the separation. Here we show you 5 possible reasons why they suddenly want you back.

1. Uncertainty

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Many couples don't even know what is important in a relationship anymore. You only look at what they see friends, family or acquaintances doing in terms of relationships and living together. Even unrealistic expectations are not uncommon. A lot of men run when the going gets tough. They have the idea that a relationship should be without any fights or problems and end it without thinking about the consequences beforehand.

In retrospect and when they realize what they have lost after all, they start feeling uncertain about their decision. This uncertainty ensures that they start missing their former partner and want them back in their life. This insight however, often comes much too late for these men.

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2. No Second Option In Sight

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Another reason why he wants you back as a partner is that he is not interested in any other person. It sounds sad, but it's true. The majority of men flee from a relationship because of the fear of no longer being free. Men are afraid of having to consult somebody else before making a choice and losing their freedom. For this reason, they seek less intimate relationships. If the man does not find such a "loose" relationship, doubts arise again as to whether the path of separation was the right one.

3. Testing The Limits

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Many men try to push their limits to see how far they can go with their partner. An example of this can be suddenly ending things before a party or a big event. Immediately after the event they want you to take them back. This method is also known as a "free ride ticket". When the partners do take them back, the men realise that they can do everything and get away with any action.

4. The Guilty Conscience Arises

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Some men start feeling guilty after leaving their girlfriends. They want to make sure the partner can survive without them. For this reason, the man makes contact with us again, thus giving the partner a feeling of a "love comeback", although this is actually only a friendly gesture from the man. That is why it is very important that you, as the abandoned person, get him to agree in advance on what the purpose of this contact is.

5. Regret

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One last reason for the man coming back can be remorse. The man notices that he has made a mistake and wants to undo everything. A good justification for this is always "Everybody makes mistakes" or "Everybody deserves a second chance". You should think twice before you give him that second chance.

If you have been hurt really badly, you should consider very carefully whether you can have another relationship with this person. You should be 100% sure that he regrets his mistakes and means it this time. Show this article to your friends, too, so they can see what the real reason he wants to come back is!