11 Signs Of Real Friendship You Should Never Ignore
Oct 23, 2018 by apost team
Friendship is one of the most beautiful things in the entire world. What's better than having someone in your life who will be there for you through everything no matter how good or bad?
Though true friendship is great, there are many instances when we question whether or not we are actually friends with someone. Due to troubled times of uncertainty, questioning one's friendship can happen to anyone.
1. They Don't Talk About You Behind Your Back
Nothing worse than trusting someone and realizing they've been bad mouthing you behind your back for a while. Real friends will never talk bad about you because they believe your friendship is more important than gossiping. It may seem like a gossiper will never get caught, but when they do, it's terrible for the friend who was being talked about. The friend will be hurt and will always be paranoid they're being talked about.
A true friend will never jeopardize a friendship over something as silly as gossiping.
2. They Make You Happier
Disney World and Disneyland are supposedly the happiest places on Earth. Most people agree those amusement parks are quite the entertainment but everyone has their own happy places within other people. The purpose of a true friend isn't to make you happy. You should be able to find ways to make yourself happy on your own.
However, a true friend makes you happier even when you least expect it. You should never feel drained and stressed being around this person. You should look forward to seeing them and having them be a part of your life.
3. They Accept The True You
As people, we have flaws. At times, it can be hard to accept ourselves for who we really are. This is hard enough but finding other people to accept us is even harder. No one should make you feel bad for who you are, especially a true friend. If your friend is constantly pointing out your flaws and criticizing you then maybe they don't have your best interest at heart.
4. You Can Be Comfortable Around Them
Everyone has varying levels of comfort around different types of people. Close friends will always be who you feel very comfortable with. You should never feel like you have to act a certain way around them in order to get their approval. The same goes for them. They should feel comfortable around you too. You guys may even know more about each other than anyone else.
5. They Will Tell You The Truth No Matter What
Sometimes the truth can be very hard to swallow. However, just because it is hard to acknowledge doesn't mean it should be ignored. We can easily lie to ourselves and tell ourselves what we want to hear. Luckily, our true friends will tell us how it really is. They'll tell us the truth, even if we don't want to hear it. They recognize the importance of being upfront with you. Additionally, they will always be honest with you even if it may hurt you.
6. They Aren't Possessive Of Your Other Friendships
It may be a commonality in a lot of teen movies, but having a possessive and jealous best friend isn't healthy. Occasional jealousy can happen naturally, but if it is a recurring theme in your friendship, that may be a red flag. You are a person, not an object. Signs of possessiveness is extremely unhealthy and can even put you in danger at some points.
7. They Meet You In The Middle
A relationship isn't always 50/50. There will be times when one friend will have to put more effort into the relationship. This is true, but it should also be taken with a grain of salt. If you are always the one to reach out to them and put 100% into the friendship when they're giving nothing, that's a bad sign. A true friend will meet you halfway and do whatever they can to salvage the relationship.
8. They Are With You Through The Bad, The Good, And The Plain 'Ole Stupid
Doesn't matter if you lost your pet hamster, you got accepted into Hogwarts, or you ate one too many tacos at the restaurant down the street, a true friend will be there with you through it all. They're not here only when times are easy. They're here for the long run.
9. They Don't Further Complicate Mistakes
Have you ever known someone who always blows things out of proportion and wants to create extra drama? Well, a true friend would never do that. As Hannah Montana said, "Everybody makes mistakes, everybody has those days". This is true of everyone. When someone makes a reasonable mistake a true friend will forgive you and move on. A fake friend will make things worse by twisting the story.
10. You Can Walk With Them Down Memory Lane
You may have had a few chuckles with some acquaintances but you probably have a million jokes with a true friend. You guys have gone through so much together there are plenty of laughs that take residency in your memories. You guys share inside jokes only you guys know about.
11. They're Not A Hater
When you succeed or achieve your goals, they will be your number one fan cheering you on. They will be happy with everything you have accomplished. A true friend wants to see you do great things in life. A fake friend will be envious of your achievements and may even try to get your spirits down in an attempt to make themselves feel good.
Tell us what you thought! Do you have a true friend? Tell us all about them!