10 Ways How Not To Be An Unworthy Spouse When Your Wife Has A Baby

Nov 06, 2018 by apost team

Having a baby is a tremendous transition in life for both the husband and wife. However, the wife is the one who endures the process of giving birth and therefore needs special support.

Here are ten ways how you can be more supportive and not selfish:

When your wife is pregnant, you need to be present as often as possible. This is not a time to be absent or withdrawn. If she is hungry, offer to get her food. If you start to find yourself getting restless or jittery, remember she is much more uncomfortable.

After she has the baby, she will be completely depleted of energy. A C-section could leave her feeling cut open and in unspeakable discomfort. During the recovery process, she will depend on you for love and help. You will need to be ready to lend your support whenever necessary, not just when it is convenient for you.

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Just because you are having another child doesn't mean you get to stop taking care of the current one. At the same time, the older child may need to help you with the job of taking care of the mother and newborn. The older child(ren) can help pick up the mail, join you when grocery shopping and a host of other activities.

After she has the baby, she will be tired, but will continue to try to get things done. However, she should not have to do so. It's important that you take over whenever possible. For example, if the phone rings, she will likely volunteer to get it, but she should not have to.

That should be your job, and you will have to be proactive and take over. Obviously, she is not in the condition to be getting up and running errands and it is likely she will start to build up resentment toward you. You don't want to go that route, so be ready to help.

It's common for new mothers to carry the weight of the world, so she will need you to be there to help keep her feeling positive. Let her know that you are there to help make this process easy and comfortable. Provide plenty of assurance.

If she becomes critical or difficult to deal with, please keep trying and do not get discouraged. This is a natural part of the experience and it is important that you are there, even when it is hard to be. In the long run, both of you will benefit from this approach.

Remember that although this may be stressful for you, it is much more stressful for her. Be there for her emotionally and be as tolerant as possible of everything. Do not be grossed out by anything you see and offer your unwavering support. This process is exciting, challenging and humbling. It is of vital importance that you stand by her through the whole process.

As you probably know by now, reality is a far cry from the land of television. Media in general can subconsciously influence our perception of how men and women should act. It's often assumed that women are easily able to make the transition to motherhood and that the man's job is simply to stand on the sidelines and not mess anything up.

However, this is not necessarily true; every person is different. Treat each situation individually, and respond accordingly.

Many men do not realize this, but it actually takes a lot of work for a woman to pump milk from her breasts. Knowing that, you want to be as careful as possible with breast milk and take precaution not to spill any of it. If it somehow were to happen (NOT recommended), make sure you are extremely apologetic and make things right.

If you don't, your wife will be angry and again build up resentment. You are much better off taking this piece of advice very seriously.

Sitting in the hospital isn't known for being fun or comfortable. However, it's necessary you not complain about the situation. For one thing, it's not about you. Additionally, when you gripe about what's going on, you force your wife to begin looking after you, when the situation should be the exact opposite.

Keep your focus on taking care of your wife and the baby.

Having a baby will change a woman's body in many ways. However, it is very important that you do not stop loving her. Continue to appreciate her both physically and as a person. It is an awkward time for her and she may feel very disoriented by the changes in her body.

Be there to show support for her and continue to love everything about her. It will help her self-esteem and allow you to continue to appreciate her as well.

Before you are ready to go home, you will go through a discharge process. Take care of the baby while your wife answers questions so she can concentrate properly. You also want to pay attention, because you will be taking care of your wife and the baby while they recover.

Be especially aware of how to take care of your wife should she experience postpartum depression. Also, it is not a time for comedy, so keep any jokes you may think of to yourself. Remember the incredible thing your wife has done and be sensitive to her needs.

How do you feel about dealing with pregnancy? Have you ever done it and if so, what did you learn from the experience? Let us know and please pass this article along to your friends; we'd love to know their thoughts as well!