10 Things You Shouldn't Expect From Others

Jul 06, 2018 by apost team

Unreasonable expectations can really put a harsh on your mellow. And not just when other people have unreasonable expectations of you. This is equally true when you have unreasonable expectations of others. If you want mellow out, first you should drop the following expectations.

The entire world has not yet agreed what is right and wrong on all topics. Even in cases where most of the world does agree that X thing is wrong, deciding if X thing really happened can still be complicated. For example, murder is wrong. But killing someone in self defense is not. So the question is "Was it self defense?" If it isn't directly impacting you and isn't as serious as murder, then try to chill.

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People simply aren't perfect. It might help to remember that many great things in the world began as a mistake, like the discovery of antibiotics. This started as a failed experiment and then scientists wondered if the failure might have value. It did.

No one wants to fight all the time, but you don't have to view a different opinion as a fight. You can view it as an interesting conversation where you get to learn new things about life, the universe and everything.

Most people aren't going to just know what you want. Once in a great while, people very close to us can do this. The rest of the world can't. So learn to use your words, as they say in kindergarten.

It's great if you can get help when you need it, but it's pretty self centered to assume the entire world can drop everything for your problems. Other people have problems of their own. They may be doing all they can to just not go postal. So cut them some slack.

If you manage to understand yourself, you are ahead of the game. A few people close to you may understand you. The rest of the world won't. Save your energy for trying to understand yourself and figuring out how to navigate life.

Reciprocation is nice, but you can't count on it. You will be happier if you learn to give only as much as you can freely give away. Don't expect everyone to owe you because you did something for them.

Not all changes are good, but growth requires change. Insisting that people stay the same is not only unrealistic, it denies them the opportunity to grow. It is better to learn to accept people and adjust your expectations as they change.

Cut other people some slack in life. You never know what they are going through. But also be kind, caring and compassionate to yourself. Stop expecting the entire world to do that for you. Your life will go better if you learn to take care of yourself first instead of thinking that's selfish, and then demanding that others somehow owe you the care you won't give yourself.

Was this a light bulb moment for you? Go ask your friends and family if they find it helpful.