10 Things Toxic Parents Do That Can Ruin A Child's Life

Aug 01, 2018 by apost team

Parents may seek the advice of a child behavior specialist to help them understand the behavior of their children. But, some parents put less emphasis on evaluating their ways of raising children. True, parenting is not easy, and no one has a right to judge someone else’s parenting style.

However, some parental styles can have a negative impact on the life of the child. Moreover, there is a very thin line that separates inappropriate behavior of toxic parents and parenting mistakes. This post will help you identify and resolve toxic behaviors that can ruin your life.

Most toxic parents want to believe their parental style or disciplinary methodology is for the good of the child. They often remind you of what they are doing for you, yet you are ungrateful. These types of parents get offended when their behavior is questioned. Often children with such parents will live in fear and apprehension.

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In most toxic families, children learn to share responsibilities with their parents. You may have grown believing that your behavior is what contributes to your parents' nightmares. With time you will be dragged into adults scandals. The worst part is that children have no right to express how they feel.

While most narcissistic parents expect their children to be the best at what they do, these parents rarely appreciate the efforts of the children. What they get instead is derogatory comments for their achievements. This makes children to grow up believing they are a letdown to their parents.

Often, toxic parents expect their children to tell them everything. If you refrain from sharing your feelings, you are blamed for being distrustful. Interestingly, these parents refer to the same information you shared when they want to scold you. On top of this, they also share the information with friends, relative, and neighbors without seeing how damaging it can be.

When your self-esteem is low, it is easy for your parent to control you. This makes it easy for toxic parents to discuss your flaws and failures. Even when you have no flaws, they make up to justify their behavior towards you. They make it difficult for you to demonstrate your willpower or try new things.

Even toxic parents want their children to succeed. But toxic parents, specifically, are hypocrites because they want you to succeed, but they offer little support to your future plans. All they care about is how they can boast to their friends and relatives about your success.

Sometimes, parents treat their children like objects. Toxic parents will make a plan for you and expect that you will follow along. But, it is up to you to deal with the consequences of being controlled. If you fail, it is not their mistake.

In successful families, parents will help their children start their own lives. Ironically, toxic parents don’t want to let go of their children, but they always boast that the house they are living in and the food they eat is theirs. This is totally confusing because they make it look like the child is the problem, yet they don’t want them to leave.

Toxic parents are fast to offer favors you can do without, but they make you feel guilty when you refuse. You may start thinking that they are really helping you, and you may decide to do something to show your appreciation, but they will always remind you of the favor they did for you.

With toxic parents, there is nothing like personal space. If you try to protect your territory, you are accused of being distrustful. It is not a surprise if they display such behavior even in your apartment. They will constantly find faults like “why you wasted money on buying this or that item?

Did you have a toxic relationship with your parents when you were growing up? Toxic parenting is similar to a chronic disease. But this does not mean there are no solutions, or you should stay vulnerable for the rest of your life.

To handle toxic relationships, you need to refrain from resolving issues that don’t relate to your life, defend your territory, live in your own house, manage your resources, give priority to personal interest over what parents plan for you, and gain your own experience to eliminate the feeling of being naive.

Spread the word so all parents can prevent themselves from saying toxic things to their children - nobody deserves to be treated like this.