10 Easy Ways To Figure Out If Someone Is Lying To You
Nov 22, 2018 by apost team
Is there anything more humiliating than trusting someone and learning he or she lied to you? Some liars are so skilled at lying that it’s tough to know if they are lying or telling you the truth.
Also, because liars are always updating their box of tricks, some tried, and true tells are outdated. Below we offer some tips we hope will help you hone your b.s. Detector.
1. They over-explain
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When you ask someone a question and they provide a litany of reasons why they couldn’t possibly be lying, they are probably lying. Another trick is to offer you just enough honesty to build your trust. Watch out!
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2. They offer you false sympathy
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Liars like to use false sympathy to earn your trust. So, when you ask a question, rather than answer you with a yes or no, they might say “Oh, I’m so sorry. I know how bad that feels.” This is meant to distract you from the lies.
3. They answer anything but Yes Or No
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When you ask a person a question, if he or she answers with an indefinite or ambiguous answer, you should be suspicious. More often than not, a definitive answer such as “yes” or “no” is the truth.
4. They act crazy
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This is a classic sign of distraction. When you ask the question and your responder loses their composure and acts insane, they are lying. If there were nothing to hide, he or she would simply answer the question with a yes or no.
5. They make light of the question
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Humor is a defense mechanism, and it may be used to “disarm” a person. If you ask a question, and the person makes a joke instead of answering directly, he or she is probably lying. That humor is like a magic trick, trying to distract you and lose your focus.
6. They ask a bunch of questions
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Once again, when you ask a liar a question and they do not answer with a direct yes or no, be on your guard. When you ask a question and they start asking YOU questions, they are lying.
7. They act overly angry
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When you ask the question, and the liar blows up, this is like a prey animal tricking a predator. Remain calm and ask the question again. If they respond the same way, you may be in the presence of a liar.
8. They respond with stunned silence
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When you confront a liar with a question and he or she stops in their tracks and remains quiet, that is a big red flag. Especially, if the question is simple. “Did you hit my car?” That’s a yes or no question. Stunned silence often is a strategy to try figure out the answer.
9. Squirrel!
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When a magician wants to create an illusion, he or she says, “Look over there!” When you look, they perform their trick. So, when you ask the question and the responder changes the subject, that is called avoidance through distraction. They are lying to you.
10. You're Pete and they repeat
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“Did you take five dollars out of my wallet?” “What? Did I take five dollars out of your wallet?” The answer is yes they did.
Body language
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- When someone wears a "poker face," as in shows no emotion, watch out. They're afraid if they move a muscle, they will be caught.
- Shifting eyes is a dead giveaway, especially if the person looks left first. Averting their eyes also means they're probably lying.
- Facial tics or one side of the face moving and the other remaining still reveals a liar.
- When a person looks up, especially to the right, more than likely they are trying to fabricate the truth.
- Any type of touching of the face, covering the eyes, pretending to find something on their face, and the like, are signs that the person is hiding the truth.
- Any type of scratching, whether it be their cheek, their nose, or their head, is a physical reaction to nervousness. They're afraid to be found out.
- Similar to averting the eyes, if the person looks at the ground or calmly shakes their head no, they are not directly giving you an answer.
- Often a person lying will look you in the eye but have their hand on their face or fingers in their mouth. These are subtle signs they are revealing themselves.
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Always be aware of your surroundings and watch the person's actions. Trust your gut! Do you have any more tips to add to this article? Send this to your family and friends so that they can also benefit from these tips!