Yes, You're A Woman Who's 'Too Much' And You Should Be Proud

Jan 20, 2019

As I was snuggled up in my bed last night waiting for sleep to come, I couldn't stop my mind from reliving each time I was told by various men that I was "too much". As if agreeing with these men silently in my head, I, too, couldn't help but wonder if I was too hard to handle, too hard to love or too much to be with in a long-term, meaningful relationship.

While I often feel as if I am too much this or that, men generally seem to be attracted to the idea of me. I am independent, good looking and have a very generous heart and spirit, but upon further digging suddenly I become "too much".

It seems as if I appear to be great girlfriend material in theory, but in real life, I am too hard to handle because I often unintentionally force men to do things they aren't ready to do such as work harder and grow deeper as a person. I have lost track of the number of times men have actually told me things like this.

As I continue to ponder the number of times I've heard that I'm too opinionated, too loud, too brash, too moody, too bitchy, too nice, too mean, too whatever, I can't help but think, yes! I am too much of all of these things, but what's wrong with too much this or that if it means being the person I am?

I am proud to be a strong woman, and I don't feel as if I should be apologizing for being too much of anything just to attract the love of a man. I like living my life as the type of woman who does too much as opposed to doing nothing at all.

Fuck the haters and their hate. I am proud to be too much.

I wear my "too much" status as a badge of honor because I've learned that when you settle for less, you get less. So what if I'm too honest? At least my honesty will never leave you with any doubts about how I truly feel. So what if I'm too bold? My boldness gets me the things I want in life. So what if I'm too moody? It just means that I truly live in each moment life has given me, and I feel my feelings in a real way no matter how good or how bad they are.

Through the years, I have learned that I was born to shine. I was born to live my life in an unapologetic, wholehearted and fierce way. I was born to believe my inner and outer beauty is what makes me feel truly alive. I was born to embrace the womanly goddess I truly am, and that is nothing to apologize for or feel ashamed about.

I am too much!

I'm too strong-willed, too intense, too fiery. But I wouldn't have it any other way. I am the woman who will never give up on herself. I am the women who will never silence her heart as she opens it deeply to share with others. I do not have to apologize for having needs I expect to be met. I will loudly voice these needs even if it makes me seem too bitchy, too moody or too whatever because being too me creates the space I need to live my best life.

If you can't accept that, then it's you, not me, who needs to do some soul-searching. By continuing to stay true to myself, I believe I can help make this world a better place.

Be the strong woman you are no matter what other people say, and let all the strong women in your life know they should stop being sorry when people in their lives tell them that they're 'too much'!