Woman Asks If She’s Unreasonable For Being Angry With Mother Who Changed Baby’s Diaper On Her Living Room Floor

Dec 02, 2021

Raising kids at any age is full of excitement, complications and everything in between. When kids are young, they typically need to be tended to very often and need help with basic necessities, like getting dressed, getting fed and going to the bathroom. As kids get older, they learn how to become more independent and are able to do these tasks on their own.

However, anyone raising a baby knows all too well the sound of their child’s cry and what the cry means, whether it’s time to eat or it’s time to have their diaper changed. By this point, moms and dads have gotten pretty used to changing their baby’s diaper, as it’s something that they have to do several times throughout the day. From birth to the age of 3, babies can use anywhere from five to 12 diapers a day, according to Healthline.

When it comes time to change diapers, most parents simply just do it. It doesn’t matter where they are; it’s something that needs to get done. However, an online post from a woman on Netmums has sparked a debate about whether people should consider where they’re changing their baby’s diaper.

The mom and her baby had been over at her friend’s house.. When it came time to change the baby’s diaper, the mother did it right on the woman’s living room floor without asking if it was OK beforehand. Upset, she shared her frustrations in a post on Netmums in 2018 asking other moms what they thought about the situation.

After experiencing something at her home that bothered her, a woman went to Netmums to voice her frustrations. In the title of her post, she asked, “Am I being unreasonable?” She explained that she didn’t have children, but she proceeded to vent about her friend who was a mother.

“Mid-pleasant catch-up it’s apparent 19-month-old needs nappy changing and it’s definitely solids,” the woman wrote in her post. “Friend proceeds not to break conversation but whip out a very small changing mat and some wipes, etc., lay it all on the carpet and introduce fresh fecal matter into my front room.”

It was clear that this woman was completely appalled by the mother changing her baby’s diaper on her living room floor. She continued, “I get that you are probably completely immune to your own child’s effluence, but to expect others to find it as delightful seems unreasonable.”

Since uploaded her post, there has been a debate amongst people — specifically mothers — online about whether it’s appropriate to change their baby’s diaper whenever and wherever. One mother replied to the post, and said:

“I’ve been that friend. Almost all my mates have little ones by now and we all just change wherever we are, no drama. However I went to a pal’s house who didn’t, started to change my baby on the floor in the living room without even stopping conversation. Didn’t even think about what I was doing, it was just automatic. She didn’t say anything to me at the time but I overheard her telling her boyfriend how disgusting it was later.”

Although the mom went on to explain that she has since asked before changing her baby’s diaper, it made sense that it felt so automatic to do. According to Healthline, a baby can go through about 3,000 disposable diapers in the first year of their life. This can be up to 12 diapers a day.

More people continued to chime in, and it seemed like an overwhelming amount agreed that it’s become second nature to just change their baby’s diaper without even thinking about where they are. Another person commented, “Your friend probably didn’t even realize. But you should’ve said something as soon as that changing mat came out, or it became apparent a nappy change was due. You could’ve directed her to your bathroom. Or even mentioned it after.”

Another person said, “I don’t mind at all what room one of my friends changed their baby in my home, they wouldn’t even have to ask. However, it’s your home and you’re entitled to feel unhappy about it. I would just have a chat with your friend and ask her to use the bathroom. Although it might cause some animosity if you don’t word it right.”

However, some people did agree with the woman and expressed how much they would not like to be in this situation. One person said, “Why should anyone have to smell your kids poop? I don’t even like my own kids poop smell, hence why we clean it ASAP. Plus I would not put poo-filled nappy in their bin in the house, I’d put it in the outside bin. But most of my friends insisted to put in house bin.”

Where do you stand in this debate? Let us know, and be sure to pass this along to your family and friends to find out what they think, too.