When He Hesitates To Choose You, Choose Yourself

Jun 19, 2018

How many women fall into the trap of a single-sided relationship? Although this can happen to anyone, women are more prone to become a victim of this kind of relationship. The truth is that no woman should go through this pain, and with some common sense and confidence in choosing yourself first, it can all be avoided.

When you like him, you will want to spend most of your time with him and make plans for both of you, but is he on the same boat as you? If he is acting like a boyfriend, but not doing much to make it official and concrete, then don't wait for him. You should not settle into a relationship where the other person is hardly present and only vaguely includes you in his life. When this is the case, you will certainly feel the signs.

Love is not painful. Is he eager to introduce you to the people in his life and make you a part of it? If not, then save your precious attention to yourself.

If he is vague about officially introducing you into his life, then the chances of him doing so in the future are questionable. He may like you but wants you around for only part of the time. If that is the case, take a notice, and give out only the time you receive so as to not feel bitter in the end.

Do not play the waiting game. Put down the phone you expect his message to pop out from. Find something valuable that you can do on your own. Do not turn a back on the other people in your life. Go out with friends, take a class, or learn a skill. Choose to develop your own self.

Next time he texts late at night, ignore the message. No matter how good you think he may be, he is not going to change for you. That is why you have to choose your relationship by putting you first.

Do you settle for less than you deserve? Love is not painful and when you meet the one who will want to be with you, you will know. Someone who will give you the importance that you give him. Until you feel that soft spot where there is no pain of being rejected, choose yourself first.

If you or someone you know is suffering from being strung along, do not hesitate to help yourself or your friend to stand on their feet. Share your experience with others, and help the sunshine fall on everyone's back.