Getting Annoyed At Your Partner Is Actually Beneficial To Your Relationship

Jan 21, 2019

Couples seek to avoid heated conflicts and even slight disagreements to maintain harmony in the home. Fighting isn't an enjoyable or productive activity. Becoming annoyed with a partner is avoided by a few relationship peacekeepers.

Is completely avoiding disagreements and mild spats with a loved one the right thing to do though? Some suggest that feeling annoyed with a partner can be a good thing under certain circumstances.

Let's take a look at instances why this may be true.

Do you get incredibly annoyed at people you don't know or maintain a serious relationship with? Maybe you do to a slight degree. With a loved one, however, the annoyances exist on a different plane. With a close relationship, look closely at what annoys you, to what degree, and, most importantly, why. Doing so may reveal that you take the relationship seriously. Would someone take time to care or feel significantly troubled in a weak, casual relationship?

Once again, while few want to embrace any negative feelings, the feelings often prove helpful. In this case, feeling annoyed may lead you to discover you take part in a strong relationship. That can be a good thing.

The feeling of being annoyed can't likely exist in an emotional vacuum. Other emotions surely rest side-by-side. Maybe examining your level of annoyance also reveals the love, affection, and loyalty you two feel for each other. Ironically, examining personal annoyances could show just how indeed in love you two are. While a smooth, "annoyance-free" relationship is preferable, sometimes bumps in the relationship road deliver valuable insights into true love.

Sometimes, the things that bother you with a loved one can hamper a relationship. How severe these "root annoyances" varies from one specific relationship to another. In some situations, misunderstandings and disagreements may lead to troubling friction.

Rather than allow minor annoyances to grow into significant troubles, both partners should look closely at the relationship sore spots. A little introspection wouldn't hurt here either. That is, don't look solely at how your partner can improve. Think about the steps you could take to better the relationship and yourself. A union may grow stronger once both you and your significant other both look at ways to improve.

You might find it difficult to address the things annoying you. Don't become despondent. Look at the growing annoyances as warning signs to seek assistance. Counseling has a long track record for assisting those trying to keep a relationship together. Maybe you and your partner need something to motivate a request for help. Seeing how your little annoyances are dragging the two of you apart could lead to calling on a therapist. Hopefully, a path to relationship recovery soon follows.

Tell the world that relationship annoyances aren't always a bad thing. No relationship is perfect. Pass this on to your friends. By letting them know how being annoyed isn't always a bad thing, you could indirectly lend them a potential relationship-helping hand.

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