5 Important Truths To Remember When A Loved One Is Depressed

Jul 24, 2018

Depression is an illness that can be hard on the friends and family members of the depressed person. It is also an illness that is widely misunderstood. People may think the depressed person should just snap out of it. However, depression is a complex disease that is out of the control of the person who suffers from it. Dealing with someone who has depression isn't easy, but the five tips below may help.

No one chooses depression.

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Some people may think that people who say they are depressed are simply trying to get more attention or that it is a cry for help, but this is not the case. Depression is a chronic illness that may leave you unable to function. It's not about just going through a rough patch.

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Platitudes don't help.

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People usually mean well when they say things like "You'll get over it" or "You'll be okay," but this is not what depressed people need to hear. Phrases like this minimize their pain. Instead, you should tell them you are there to support them and ask how you can help them out.

Dealing with a depressed person can be hard.

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If you feel frustrated, it's no wonder. It's normal to feel emotions like this when you are dealing with someone who is depressed. However, it is important that you don't show them how you are feeling.

You are not at the center of their depression.

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When a person is depressed, loved ones often think they can "fix" that person. This just isn't the case. The depression isn't caused by others and can't be fixed by them. The only person who can change the depression is the person who is depressed. Everyone else can only offer support.

Tough love is not the answer.

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Some people may think it is a mistake to cuddle the depressed person. They might think the best thing to do is to issue an ultimatum that will force the person to change. Some people may even threaten to leave. However, none of this is helpful to the depressed person. Instead, loved ones should stay positive around the person and offer unconditional support.

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Few things are as challenging as dealing with a loved one who is depressed. However, although you cannot cure the person, there are definitely things you can do to help. Even when the person does not seem to believe in your love and support, if you simply continue to offer it without making any demands, you will be helping.

Pass this on to your friends and loved ones - and add your tips on how to help someone with depression.

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