12 Reasons Why Old Souls Have The Most Difficult Time Finding Love
Jan 21, 2019
Most people act their age, or at least within two or three years of their true age, and choose to hang around their similarly-aged peers. Friends of the same ages share similar struggles, engage in the same activities, and generally behave similarly. However, not everybody acts their age.
Some are immature, childish, and obnoxious, whereas others' mental states are light years ahead of their age as measured by calendar years. The older-acting, latter group has a nickname: old souls.
First, let's make sure we're on the same page. An old soul can be explained in laymen's terms as someone who has no interest in being flashy, showing off material possessions, spending significant chunks of time thinking about possessions, dressing to impress just for the sake of insecurity, and perpetuating drama among individuals or groups of people.
Old souls generally benefit from being unusually wise, careful, reserved, and intelligent. They might not make as many rash decisions in their younger years as normal people do, for example. Old souls are also, unfortunately, said to experience roadblocks on the pathway to finding their soulmate. Here are 12 reasons why old souls generally experience problems in finding their soulmates, or even a remote semblance of love.
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1. Old souls don't dare play dating games.
Let's face it - you would never purchase a car or truck without test driving it first. The same holds true for dating or simply spending time with someone you consider to be more than friends with. Almost all men and women "play games," in effect, in feeling out potential matches. Old souls simply don't have time to ride that carousel. An old soul is blunt and honest, because it saves wasted time.
2. Since old souls naturally want to help, they attract those who want to be helped--not loved.
One of the truest things about old souls is that they genuinely enjoy helping others navigate through life. While this is in itself an amazing and rare quality, it often draws the wrong partners.
Old souls often pull the proverbial trigger on mates that simply need too many cognitive and emotional repairs to be good matches. These types of relationships are ultimately unfulfilling and quite exhausting.
3. Old souls don't enjoy dating in the modern world.
As of last year, some 50 million people regularly used the popular dating app Tinder. Having found potential matches for some 20 billion pairs of people, Tinder is an effective means of testing out potential partners in high-volume fashion. Old souls don't want to go on a million dates. Also, they generally aren't big fans of social media platforms of any kind - not Tinder, not Twitter, not any of them.
4. If it isn't real love, old souls don't want it.
5. With a strong sense of identity, an old soul won't conform to someone else's wishes.
Old souls inherently have keen senses of identity. Rather than engaging in behaviors or activities that make one appear different than they actually are, old souls prefer to stay true to themselves no matter the cost. A strong sense of identity goes hand-in-hand with fully knowing what type of partner someone wants.
6. An old soul's unique personality is a result of hardship.
Some people have more difficult lives than others. Unfortunately, many people are forced to endure physical, emotional, mental, and other types of trauma at a young age. They can't remove themselves from tough situations because they struggle to fend for themselves without help.
7. "Ignorance is bliss" never applies to an old soul.
Old souls have many positive qualities about them. However, the senses of being wise and intelligent almost always manifest themselves in people considered to be old souls. Although this might sound like a good thing, old souls readily realize the not-so-great things in life. These sentiments typically linger on the minds of old souls indefinitely.
8. Love isn't the only emotion an old soul feels with intensity.
When an old soul loves, they love hard. But this means every other emotion is intense. Fear, especially. An old soul might be so overwhelmed by fear that it blinds opportunities that could be waiting just around the corner.
9. Their intuition can lead to over-thinking.
A hyper-sensitive old soul is prone to over-thinking just about anything. This can lead to self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviors which easily trickle into any relationship an old soul has. Sometimes, it's too easy for an old soul to make assumptions or jump to conclusions.
10. An old soul has other purposes before finding love.
An old soul may miss an opportunity for true love because they feel they must accomplish other things first. An old soul is only comfortable loving completely, with their whole heart, when they are content with every single other thing in their life.
11. They always seek more from a passionate relationship.
An old soul wants something deeper than passion. They know that true, soulmate love will spark an entire lifetime of passion and comfort, and that's what they go after. This type of love is not easy to find, which is something an old soul knows through experience.
12. An old soul has a lot of baggage.
The natural side effect of multiple failed relationships is, of course, tons of baggage. This helps an old soul understand exactly what they need in a partner, but it can also cause them to become impatient. An old soul can detect a red flag a mile away, but this makes them even stronger.
In today's age, it's especially rare to see old souls. While many people appreciate old souls' traits, characteristics, attitudes, and behaviors, not everybody feels the same way. What's your favorite part of being an old soul? Pass this along to all the old souls you know.